I am going to dedicate this blog entry to something I really hate and that really bothered me. Before I am ravaging, two statements: Indian boys/men get married when they are 25-28, and they are not supposed to have sex until then, which worked pretty well for the last centuries. The caste system and the skin color often correspond, the darker the skin, the lower the caste (the social rank).
Now my observations.
On my second day, I found a nice little place, called Rose Corner, where all the young people hang out, of course only the boys, girls don't do that kind of stuff. Except when they are backpackers. I met two backpacker girls heavily involved in an affair [addition: with local boys], embracing in a way that would not even seem decent in Europe. I just thought, wow, ok, that is fine, why not. We had a nice time, later J. (no clue how to spell the name) invited me to a dinner in his cafe (coconut rice with fresh butter*something* fish in garlic coriander sauce). Afterwards we had some beer and fresh pineapple juice with terrible rum and talked. I made sure-sure that he knows about Thomas! Later he asked me whether I want to join the group to the beach and I agreed. Stupid me. Well, you can imagine that he was not amused when I ran away half an hour later.
The next day, I had a wonderful time with the local boys, laughing, talking, drinking beer (later more about alcohol), but I realised more and more, how they thought I was eager to start an affair/wanted sex etc. I was really confused, and invented wonderful and elaborate wedding plans. Anyway, things cleared up a little, when I saw this rather big, old French woman with a 20 yr old, paying everything and kissing. Even more, when Sandra (one of the French women) went to the beach in t-shirt and long hotpants got touched on the butt by a 12 yr old. Things cleared up even more the next day when I talked to older local people.
The boys are eager to have sex and they are mostly from the lowest caste, the untouchables. Apparently, in touristy areas (like here and other places) there are many, many women coming on their own or with a friend and take their lover for a week or so. They then pay the boys all they want for a week, providing them with luxury they normally don't have (sometimes even promise them to marry, but the boys know very well about the sincerity..). It's off-season, but normally you can see 70 yr old women with a 20 yr old, you can see wifes that come with their husband and just vanish for an hour etc. It is basically Puket reversed.
With this development (it started only several years ago), those western women bring HIV and other stuff, the boys of course don't want to use a condom and as they usually tell the women that they never have sex... Indian people don't want to test themselves either. So finally, when the family manages to get the boy married, his poor, poor innocent Indian wife and the kids get ill, without knowing it. That way, the HIV rate in India increased like hell over the last years, especially in the touristy places. And that way, I am not supposed to smile at any boy when I am alone, as smiling here means: Hey I am interested, wanna marry me? For western women it is understood as: Hey I am interested, wanna fuck me?
The conclusion of this post: If you are a girl and you would like to have a week with one of the admittedly really handsome boys, come here, but please, please, please, for the sake of the Indian women and the children: use condoms.
Otherwise, don't be surprised if you will have avances, they don't harm you, in my experience the guys are horny but would never try to rape you or so.